I always knew the signs, she would flare her nose and he would clench his jaws, the fight waiting to erupt like a volcano. Then the words are said and like a blur, hands were reaching for the other intending to claw the other. Screaming, shouting and hollering. I shot up from the sofa and buried myself under the covers, their voices travelling down the hallway. I closed my eyes shut and waited for it to pass. I am such a coward. This is my fault. If only there was something I could do to stop them. I thought to myself, may be this is my fault; they hate me. I remember thinking to myself, not realising how thoughts like these impacted me and my decisions for the rest of my life. In this write up, I’m highlighting a very serious issue ie the effects of parents‘ fight on their children.
Either it involves violent conflicts or mere disagreements? In both cases, it ultimately affects children.
No matter how a good a couple is, there’s always a few quarrels among them. Occasionally there are arguments, disagreement, and fighting. It’s not that only young kids are affected by fight of parents but some studies say that young adults up to 19 years old can also be sensitive to conflicts in their parent’s relationship. It doesn’t mean that fighting of parents doesn’t get physical
One of the research says that those who grew up in homes with a high level of conflicts had more physical health problems, emotional problems and social problems later in life. Another study showed that even 19 year-olds remained sensitive to parental conflicts. This shows that children of all ages, from childhood to adulthood are affected by parent’s issues.
One of the research says that those who grew up in homes with a high level of conflicts had more physical health problems, emotional problems and social problems later in life. Another study showed that even 19-year-olds remained sensitive to parental conflicts. This shows that children of all ages, from childhood to adulthood are affected by parents’ issues
In an unstable parent’s relationship, children lose their sense of normalcy because they see a lot of disturbance and due to this they feel emotionally insecure. Excessive arguments of parents can leave children feeling insecure and fearful. Most importantly, parents fighting affects the parent-child relationship. Parents and children spend less time with each other and this ultimately has a negative impact on the overall family. Parents fighting also creates a stressful environment. Children’s health can be affected due to this environment both mentally and physically. Children’s encountering parents fight create depression, anxiety, and health problem in children. All of these results, fear in children, difficulty in sleeping and concentrating in studies.
Parents need to focus on this issue and should try to diminish it. Arguments and fighting are a part of every relation but mature parents do not fight or argue in front of their kids. They always discuss their issues and try to clear it. Parents should discuss their issues with their kids and reassure them that it is resolved. Parents should keep their children aside when fighting occurs between them. They must show positivity in front of children.
The writer is a student at Comsats University and can be reached at [email protected]