Dear Mathira & Rose, I am 34 years old and single. I was in a relationship with a girl for five years but things didn’t work out and we broke up. She got married later. A month back, she has started approaching me again after her divorce. She has a year-old-daughter. I still have feelings for her and we have met a few times recently. I want to marry her but can’t forget the way she ditched me before as I wasn’t earning that well at that time and the first rich guy’s proposal that came for her, she accepted. Regardless, I still want to own her and her daughter. My friends are talking me out of it. My family has left the decision up to me as they know how strongly I feel about her. What do you advise? Rose’s advice: If you still love her and have strong feelings for her, then you should give her a second chance but don’t rush into marriage just now. Just see how it works out. I believe she kind of knew that you would be on standby the whole time. She probably found out that money’s not the solution for everything. That’s why she came back to you. It’s really sweet of you to want to own her daughter and take off from where the relationship ended. In this day and age, guys like you are rare. But no matter how much you love her, you need to know that she loves you back. Mathira’s advice: She may have made a mistake before, but don’t dwell in the past. She has a daughter and just got divorced and maybe experiencing a rough patch. I think she has gotten her punishment. Sometimes people do get blinded as in her case. But I think you should marry her and accept her daughter with all your heart. Leave the past as you still love her. She’s back in your life now. Go for it but do ensure that she’s not marrying you for money. Do love her but don’t blindly trust her. You’re blessed that the love of your life has come back to you. If you want advice on any issue, email us your questions at sisterlyadvice@dailytimes.com.pk