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An ideal relationship between man and woman has now become a fairy tale, but the fact is that nature has given the power of struggle to males, and the feelings of love and service to womenfolk. Today’s woman does not like this natural tendency, and she is busy trying to deny and suppress the undeniable truth. The rights of both men and women are exactly the same, but there is an essential difference in their responsibilities.

No matter how beautiful and intelligent a woman is she remains incomplete woman until she uses her emotions of love and service for a man. Today, women are trying to fill emptiness through material things and unnecessary desires, even though a woman can be easily satisfied. On the contrary, a man is not so quickly satisfied. The chemistry of a woman is so sophisticated and pure she cannot keep any moral ambiguity inside her for long.

Today, preferences of woman have changed. Women work in industry, science and technology, but the fact is that the metaphysical essence of a woman is the unconditional love and constant service of a man. It may be possible for a woman to sit in an office for eight hours and feel comfortable working, the fact is that the physical and spiritual structure of a woman is not enough to keep her emotions away from a man. Men and women have been in conditional relationships in all ages and civilisations, from the first day to the present. Islam calls it nikah or a social contract; that is associated with terms like marriage, vivah, common law marriage and cohabitation. But men and women have always existed together in every society.

At one time when a woman was married, the whole household would benefit from her service and love. Apart from her own man, she would take care of his entire family, and she would find serenity in that. But this is not the case today, and it cannot be because the woman of today has become very intelligent. Women have begun to consider the service of their men a burden. Through banners, a woman addresses the person who is unconditionally entitled to his love and service: ‘Warm the food yourself’. I do not support stereotypes; a woman has the full right to education and grooming, and to live with her own free will. But the question is: what is a woman and how does her metaphysics compare to that of a man? The woman herself has probably not even considered this question to date.

Today, women are trying to fill emptiness through material things and unnecessary desires

Education is undoubtedly a light; grooming is the guarantee of a better life, and natural independence also has a fundamental significance, but can all this ensure a satisfying life? No way. Whether man or woman, the only purpose of human life is to be satisfied. But when a person cannot be happy despite his obedience, he or she must think about which part of life he or she has left behind that makes him anxious and sad. The metaphysical structure of a woman is something that develops affection solely. Affection is also an interpretation of the Qur’anic term muwaddat, which means a specific kind of love that only a woman feels when approaching a man. There is a verse in Surah Ar-Rum of the Quran: “And we have made both of you [man and woman] to be affectionate and merciful to each other.”

A woman can do anything she wants; she can fly a plane, go to the border, sit in the office, teach children, run an industry. But when it comes to studying the natural tendency of a woman, womanhood is love and service. While the body of a woman is the birthplace of a human being, it is a fine integration of endless emotions, such as love, compassion, devotion and service, rather than additional mental abilities. That is one reason why when a modern medical cure is practised, a woman is chosen instead of a man for the care and service of a patient. It is because a woman using her natural abilities can serve the patient better. It is not that a man does not feel comfortable serving, but the satisfaction and comfort that a woman receives after serving may not be familiar to a man.

It is this division of nature that today’s woman is not trying to understand, and that affects the idea of a peaceful home. In the modern world, the idea of a peaceful home is almost gone. Even though there are magnificent houses and buildings, values of love, service and obedience have disappeared.

The writer is a psychologist and a polymath