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Dear Mathira and Rose,

I am 28 and have been married for four years now. Although my marriage was an arranged one, my husband and I share good understanding. He is a good and caring man and cares for me a lot. The only issue is that whenever his parents visit (they live in another city) he becomes a different person. They usually come for a few days visit two or three times a year, and during their stay he totally ignores me and only spends time with his parents. Sometimes I think I am being petty but his behavior is really hurtful. Should I confront him?

Rose’s advice:

I don’t think this is a real problem; in fact you need to understand your husband’s point of view. It is only natural that he will wish to spend time with his parents as he doesn’t see them that frequently. Plus it is not that he is a “different person” when they are around it’s just that his attention is diverted from you. I think you should respect that it’s his parents and of course he will want to spend time with him. So just relax I am sure he loves you and there is no need to make an issue out of the situation.

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Mathira’s advice:

Look darling, you are a 28 year old married woman, but where are your brains? Like seriously! Men, especially in front of their mothers hate showing affection to their wives as they think it will be ‘sissy’. And anyway the parents only come three or four times a year, what is the issue? Come on man, for **** sake, its 2019, people have bigger issues. So what if he gives his parents time, he is trying to be balanced. And as soon as they leave he is all yours. The next time they come smile, be nice and as soon as they leave give him mind blowing sex. Ciao!

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Published in Daily Times, February 24^th 2019.