Dear Mathira & Rose,I am 32 years old and have been married for two years. I was a chubby girl before marriage and after one child, I’ve gained more. I’ve recently joined a gym but the thing is that my mother-in-law and sister-in-law fat shame me a lot. So much that it’s getting on my nerves. They ridicule me on my weight and compare themselves with me after one child what their weight used to be etc. I think I’ll really lose it one day. I’m from Butt family and we’re not petite people. Rose’s advice:Gaining weight after pregnancy and delivery is a normal thing. But since you were a chubby girl before marriage after one baby, you’ve gained more weight; the best thing is that you’ve joined a gym. When it comes to losing weight, the only person who can help you is yourself. When you are chubby, as they call fat politely, people do call you names. People do make fun of you and not all clothes are going to look good on you. I’ve been through all this as I used to be fat once. Just for a few months, believe in yourself. The moment, you’re going to give up, this whole journey will go to waste. You have to tell yourself that you can do it. It’s alright if your mother-in-law and sister-in-law fat shame you a lot. To be honest, people have called me names as well. The worst somebody called me was a whale and this was coming from a stranger, so people can be mean. It all depends on you how you take these negative remarks and build yourself up. Let them call you names, like fat cow etc. Mathira’s advice:It is okay to deliver healthy. It’s okay to be fat. I was very conscious and I’m right now a big woman. I’m not skinny and I’m not a supermodel but I’m a little bit chubby. This happens. Ups and downs happen in life and it’s pretty normal. No biggie. It’s nothing to be worried about and if somebody’s bashing you, trust me, people will talk, people will bully, things will happen but you just have to let it go. That’s why I used to visit a psychiatrist and he used to tell me one thing that we block people on social media and other places. But the day we learn to block people mentally will be the day; we’ll be the happiest in the world. So you need to mentally block them because they’re not worth it. Go to the gym and try to burn that fat. You need to concentrate on what you eat and everything. Everything will be okay and just be positive. Being fat is not bad. Things change and this is how life is. We get fat, we get skinny; it just happens like that.