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Dear Mathira and Rose

Ever since I have started working my mother who is a single parent has started complaining that I don’t give her enough time. Now I know she is right in her own way but I also need to focus on my own life and career. I am finding it hard to juggle my home life along with my professional one and now both seem to be suffering. I value them equally. Please help me strike a balance between these two before it’s too late. Torn apart

Rose’s advice:

As long as your mother is not a toxic mom, you have to understand that as a single parent her life revolves around you. So it’s entirely understandable that now when you have started working your mother will be feeling lonely. What I suggest you do is get her busy. Ask her to volunteer somewhere or do some social work. Get her a pet or tell her to write or start gardening — there are so many things which can keep her busy and this way she won’t feel your absence that much. Just help her find something to fill the void.

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Mathira’s advice:

When parents grow old, sometimes a role reversal occurs and they start acting like children. This is a natural process and the way of life, I know it can be extremely rough but remember your mother raised you when it was probably very rough on her. You can help her start a hobby or find new interests. Also spend some quality time with her. Try taking her out to dinner or shopping once a week. Above all tell her you love her as I think that with you starting a new life, she is probably feeling insecure.

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Published in Daily Times, February 16^th 2019.