Dear Mathira and Rose I really like this girl at my office but feel hesitant about approaching her, since she is my senior. I feel if I ask her out, she might see it as inappropriate behavior from a junior and my reputation at the office would suffer as a result. I really feel that this girl might be the one but I don’t want send a marriage proposal without knowing her first. Should I tell her how I feel? Desi society problem Rose’s advice: Woah, slow down dude! First of all how can you claim that she is the one without even knowing her, second, marriage is something very serious and not to be rushed into. Third and most importantly, she is a colleague and not to mention your senior. I would preach caution as I don’t want you to get fired or end up in front of HR. I think you should ease into it and be casual about it and not come off as too aggressive. I would suggest asking her out for lunch or coffee, definitely not dinner or a movie. Or even better try to be friends first, bring her a snack or a nice latte and try to develop a good rapport first. If you want sisterly advice on any Issue give a shout @rosemohammed90 Mathira’s advice: If you really like this woman, just approach her. Gather up your courage, march right up to her and just tell her how you feel. What is the worst that could happen? I know she is your senior, and you might end up getting fired. But if she says yes, you will end up having a ball at the office!!! So listen to your heart and do not hesitate, because you only live once. No guts no glory. And if you do get fired, that will be rough, but life is rough and that’s the best part of life. If you want sisterly advice on any Issue give a shout @IamMathira Published in Daily Times, February 3rd 2019.