Sir: The trend of girls joining the three armed forces is increasing every day. Their motivation level is unmatched and, as long as the girls remain single, they are well looked after in the officers’ messes. The problem starts when they get married and are posted away from their families. There are no joint families to look after their children and, at times, it is not possible for any one member of their families to stay indefinitely with them at their station of posting. To a large extent, their children are at the mercy of servants or maids, which is not a healthy practice for obvious reasons. A case in point is that of my daughter who joined the Pakistan Air Force (PAF) with a lot of enthusiasm and served there for about 16 years but then called it a day when her daughter was seven-years-old as the child strongly demanded that her mother be present at home when she returned from school. My daughter also narrated the fact that she always wanted her mother to be at home when she returned from her school or college. My daughter’s duty hours were strenuous as she had to be present at the approach radar of Masroor base when the first aircraft took off, return home after the last landing of the day and then go again in the evening to monitor the night flying. She would return at around midnight after the last aircraft had safely landed back. Her husband is in the Pakistan Navy and even his day and night schedules are unpredictable. Thus our granddaughter had to be with the maid most of the time.
It is strongly suggested that, just like the multinational companies and some highly reputable schools, which have mandatory day-care centres, the three services should also arrange the same for their married lady officers. One does not have to highlight the importance of the presence of a suckling child nearest his or her mother as he or she should get priority over service matters during their extremely important and formative years. Last but not least, children reared in military environments will prove to be an asset for the nation in general and the forces in particular.
MAJOR TALAAT KHURSHID
Rawalpindi